The need to
exist, at least for something, different from anyone else is a little more complex to
comprehend. For the moment, let's suppose that this diversity
I believe that the first sensation would be fear of not existing, as if in some way our existance was necessary because of that difference that, distingueshes us from others, as if it were necessary. Because we all need to feel necessary. If we were all alike, which other people's need would our existance
So, also the need of unicity ends again in the need for
sociality. But we could also have the necessity of feeling unique so to have a
role, a better position in the group, to be chosen, to have more power, in every
sense, even undirectly.Every individual is unique.
It's obvious being the result of the meeting of two unique genetical
patrimonies, and from the meeting of this result's interactions with the surrounding
This unicity is something many, or maybe all, care for. On the other hand, it's something even more demanding and, often, it is difficult to completely understand and accept.But that's not all. If we want to make a step foward, we need to learn to "respect"
This is the way to do it:
We have to keep track of our uniqueness in the formation of our
ideas, and when trying to understand ourselves and the relationship we have with
others. This type of approach also helps us in relationships with
others, because "everyone" has their
uniqueness, and only keeping account, both of ours and of
others, can we understand how to maintain
relationships, of every kind.
Marco Dal Negro