The capability of holding out stress and frustrations is directly proportional to the gratification we
receive. That is: the same stress and the same frustrations that in a certain moment seem unbearable, would weigh less (on us) if we had more
The less they weigh, the more gratifications we
receive. Like some sort of war, the more strength we
have, less can our enemy overcome us. So, we have to find the way to gratify
ourselves. Not necessarily with big things, but also with small
ones. It's like a big tank with holes in it (frustrations) which has to be kept full, adding water
(gratifications). We can open a big faucet or various small
jets, it's important to compensate the leakage.
Often we're not in a situation which allows great
gratifications, because this implies hard work from the beginning ( usually long and very
committing), a large amount of luck and other additional things to add to what we normally have
done, to obtain that extra gratification that we
need. If it could have been possible, probably we would have already done it.
Meanwhile, to obtain small gratifications, everything is much easier because we are able to find
many, everywhere. It's much easier to achieve small
goals, and on many occasions it's all about changing ones point of
view, to have a more positive approach.
In general, with a bit of attention, we could gratify ourselves surely more than we already do. It's a positive cycle that grafts: more gratifications give us more strength to face all the adversities, obtaining greater results from which we draw more strength...and so on.
Marco Dal Negro